Love demands the reassurance of touch. Most fights are really protests over emotional disconnection. Underneath the distress, partners are desperate to know: Are you there for me?
Here is a great article on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an approach to counselling that really gets to the bottom of the relationship distress. The article was written by Dr.Sue Johnson, a leading expert on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Also, here is a video clip from Sue Johnson, as she speaks at the 2009 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium: